All those younger women were 15-20 years younger than Jonathan Frid-yuck! Grayson Hall was only 1-2 years older than he, she was more beautiful, at her age, than any of the other women would have been, had beautiful legs, and was more charasmatic and sensuous than any of those younger nymps. She and Jonathan Frid had a wonderful onscreen chemistry. Julia was smart and the only woman that could handle Barnabas. She trulely loved him no matter what. Julia never forced herself on him, she always protected him, risked her life for him, and forgave time, over and over, again, when he hurt her. That is what true love is all about. Barnabas and Julia grew to have a mutual trust, respect, and devotion for each other( like a married couple), even though Barnabas never professed his love for Julia. I believe that the reason he never told her, was because he was protecting her from Angelique. He was not going to risk losing the one person he could depend on. It would have broke his heart. Barnabas could not stand the thought of losing Julia, so he just never told her how he really felt.